What if we already have all that we need inside of us? Our job is to tap into it and bring it out. In the past I heard Dr. Wayne Dyer tell the story of a man who came upon a woman who was feverishly searching for something at night under a street lamp. He offered to help her and asked what she was looking for. “My keys,” she replied. “Oh, okay where did you lose them? “ the man inquired. “Well I lost them in my apartment upstairs, but it’s so dark in there that I decided to look out here because there’s lots of light.” I love this story because it serves as a metaphor for how we can go through life looking outside ourselves for the light. When really we have to turn inward. That’s where our treasure lies.
This is a concept I’ve often struggled with and could understand intellectually, but couldn’t really apply to my own life. One reason is lack of role models. I was listening to a Bob Proctor talk where he explained how environment is more important that genetics. When you raise a child in an environment where everyone has a poverty-consciousness the child will probably grapple with the same thing, too.
When growing up I can’t recall seeing those adults around me actively, looking for the light within themselves. Oftentimes, I’d watch them work hard, get paid moderate wages, but nothing that led to financial independence. I heard complaints about other people, the government and how things weren’t that great all around. That’s what I saw and ended up modeling.
Now as an adult I look at my life and see the results of this behavior and I don’t like it. I’ve developed an aversion to taking risks, wait for the “perfect time” to pursue things and just grew complacent. It’s difficult to admit, yet it’s true. As I sort through all this during my time in transition I realize if I keep doing what I’m already doing I’ll continue to get these same results. The ones I don’t like. That insanity again. That means that I need to do something different.
A few nights ago I spoke with a former mentor I had when I was in high school. It had been a number of years since we spoke and it was good to catch up. As she talked about the missteps and choices she made in the past her piece of advice for me was to, “be brave and go for it.” I hope this advice can help you, too.